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But can a narcissist heal? With the first narcissistic abuse experience I was so deluded into believing I still loved him, and we were truly meant to be together. I was convinced he really loved me, and that his exclamations of wanting to save our relationship were genuine.
I tried hard to believe that he would be the first narcissist on the planet to truly heal. I spent years hanging on to that hope. I believed love conquers all. This allowed me to get out and move on with my life A LOT quicker. Words Are Cheap It is very common for a narcissist, at some point of their relationship problems, to be sorry, apologise, and speak the words that would make someone believe that they can and do want to heal.
Not all narcissists do this — but many do… This can be incredibly misleading — even if you understand the dynamics of narcissism.
When you are viewing life from a human model you believe signs of genuine remorse and apology equal change.
Firstly, when A generation of deluded narcissists with a narcissist, you have no ability to know whether or not these proclamations of taking responsibility and being remorseful are feigned or genuine.
Why does this happen?
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The narcissist despite what he or she has said genuinely cannot help the ongoing behaviour, and his or her False Self despises the fact that he or she had to be humble.
The truth is nobody — narcissist or non-narcissist — stops acting out inappropriate or unhealthy behaviour simply because they said they realised and would not do that anymore.
These wounds are so significant that the narcissist submerged killed off his or her True Self and created a False Self another person in its place to try to get away from the wounds. The only problem with this strategy is: They remained and the more disowned they were, the bigger they got — just like an untreated cancer that becomes more and more invasive and malignant.
The narcissist has disowned these wounds, but can never divorce these wounds. The narcissist is eternally tied to them. To try to compensate the narcissist needs to create a bigger and bigger False Self which is grandiose, perfect in every way and more special than other people.
The False Self however is pathological. It is an ineffective barrier to internal self-demonising thoughts and feelings. It needs to grab energy and attention outside of itself to try to avoid the internal emotional agony. Of course it often fails… What this means is: While walking on eggs shells you are sooner or later going to land on a trigger.
Bang the trigger goes off, and the narcissist explodes with narcissistic rage. Callously devaluing you, or worse still engineering a way to punish you. There is NO reasoning with that… So it happened… you hit the trigger, and the horror show has just begun all over again.
This is what astounds me with traditional cognitive therapy.
The inner wounds which are causing the problems are not accessed, confronted, faced or released. This means that the reasons as to why a narcissist disowned his or her True Self, and is living life through a pathological self are not faced. It is a perpetual bomb of malicious cruelty to anyone who threatens the False Self, waiting to go off at the slightest provocation.
It would ONLY ever be when these wounds no longer exist that the narcissist can lay down these defences.
How on earth can talk therapy reach, face, embrace and release wounding of that magnitude? I am still never to hear of this having positive results. I have never heard of a joint therapy session go well with a narcissist.
Regarding the first narcissistic experience I had, it was a complete and utter three ring circus and nightmare. He ran rings around the therapist, and as soon as she started to put some pieces together after a private session with me he discredited her and refused to continue.
In no way was he even close to owning his outrageous behaviour off the planet was completely unliveable and due to horrendous childhood wounds. So I broke off the relationship and declined the offer…thankfully… I can only imagine how much more damaging, deranging and abusing that whole experience would have been had I not.
And of course there was NO possibility of a healthy outcome. Please be aware if the narcissist is going to anger management, meditation or mindfulness teachers, before long he will be wanting to run the group, volunteer as a group speaker, or will have buddied up to the teacher in order to be acknowledged as an incredible, special and amazing human being.
Both never faced or worked on their childhood wounds.
Truly — the proof as they say is in the pudding.4. She ‘favoritizes’. Narcissistic mothers often have one child who is “the golden child” and another who is the scapegoat. 5. She undermines She will pick a fight with you or be especially critical and unpleasant just before you have to make a major effort.
A frequent question I get is how can sociopaths be good? Why would sociopaths choose to "do the right thing" if they don't feel the emotion "guilt" like everyone else does? We all use short cuts to make decisions. It would be impossible for us to make a fully informed, reasoned decision every time.
This question is one I hear so many times. People write to me and say “I have done the research, and apparently narcissists don’t change. But can a narcissist heal?
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How can he / she change?” This was a question, once upon a time I agonised over myself. With the first narcissistic abuse experience I was so deluded into believing I still loved him, and we were truly meant to be together. (I had reworked an old post for a psychiatry trade journal, which I would happily have linked you to, except that page 2 is behind a login attheheels.com here is the version I submitted before the editors edited it, slightly longer with more typos.
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